That Forced Question

I utterly loathe being stuck in those situations where some kid is forcing their feelings upon you. What can I say? I mean really there is never a nice way to say no and deny having the same feelings for them.

What can I do? To make these guys stop seeing me as some girl that will just fall into their hands if they invite me to places, forcedly buy me things, and than lastly telling me they like me?
No, it does not work that way. I feel bad enough knowing that they like me, for the shallow and typical reasons any young boy chases after a girl.

I make sure to state, no dates and none of this "starting points" to have them believe they're getting cloder to their objective. But some just don't want to acknowledge whats in front of them and blindly believe they can have me against my will! Most set themselves up to be let down, and fall hard because of how hard they were trying NOT to see that I am not ready nor interested.

I mean really! I hate meeting most guys for this reason, because one way or another most aren’t looking for simple friendship, but always have to try and “get” the girl they meet that fits the “attractive” category.
Now those girls that don’t fit that "image", the stuck up, no good and self centered guys stick up their noses and don't even to look at them! It's completely wrong and despicable.

Now I won’t say all guys are like that, because they aren’t. Though most are indeed too focused on the relationship/physical junk, letting their desires and instincts take over their actions. But this goes both ways, for girls as well. Maybe even more so.

To me no one should ever be “looking”, it makes everything a lot easier if they aren't and you save yourself from a lot of mistakes. But in those times, when I am forced with the any of these questions; "Will you date me?", "Do you like me?" and “What are your feelings for me?”. I answer along these lines: “I'm sorry but I am not interested in a relationship or being involved with anyone." It's as if I'm taken, though I'm not seeing anyone.

Now their replies are one of these: One, not replying at all and ending everything because they only want a relationship or nothing, and two: Oh well that’s fine, let’s just act like this never happened (and than they either stop talking to you, or actually do what they said), and three: Oh why? I really like you, come on why don’t we just go out for a week and after that see how you feel about me.

Now I hate the last one the most, I wish they would just drop it and realize no matter what I will not “go out” with anyone, period. Yeah well I think that pretty much sets it for my thoughts on this subject. Yup, I feel so much better after putting this out there.