Misunderstood

Not being able to express yourself to others hurts in more ways than one. Knowing, that someone close to you (or that should be) is looking at you through their eyes which see you in one certain way, or label you to who they believe you are to some extent. Simply, how they see you as a person. And in no way possible can that be exactly right. Which cause misunderstandings, and others simply assuming what your going to do, what you think. And it never leads to good feelings knowing you are being made out to be who you aren’t, even if it was a little assumption or misjudgment. It still hurts.

But, we all do it. Because every human tries to understand people in their own way, and sadly it’s not usually asking that certain person directly of what they think, what they like or at all of whom they are. So we usually rely on what we can observe, and pick up from what we see, and what we've heard. And that, I’ve got to say is not a good habit, because for one: people are so much more than from what you can grasp on what’s on the outside, or even what you can find out by simply watching, or those little meaningless questions that are thrown out there in those everyday shallow conversations. It takes effort to know, actually come to know someone. There is only so much you can get by observing and it isn't enough.

So what I’m saying, is don’t depend so much on what you can find out by observing alone, because there is still so much more than what is on the surface.
But in no way is observing bad, it is a very wise thing to come and be good at, but I’m saying is don’t rely on it to find out all the things in which a person is about, you will never end up making close and real relationships with anyone. You have to go directly to that person, say “Hi” and ask questions. You can’t expect people to just lay out their entire being without even being asked, make some real effort if you actually want the right to judge anyone.